How To Turn Your Daughter Into A Whore In Two Easy Steps
Step 1. Enroll your daughter in public school.
Step 2. Kick back and watch.
I bet I got your attention, didn’t I? And I bet you’re wondering where I’m coming from on this. Let me fill you in.
I teach mathematics in public high school. I’ve done so for the past five years. I remember my first week as a public school teacher–I called my wife and told her that I felt like I had landed right in the middle of Sodom and Gomorrah. I also told her there was no way in you know where my daughter would ever go to public school beyond elementary school. Five years later, I still feel that way.
I have yet to get used to witnessing what I see in my school on a daily basis.
For one thing, the girls dress like…well, whores!
Now, just so you know, I’m a little conservative. I feel like a girl should dress like a young lady. I know that’s old fashioned, but I have a problem–I have values.
Public school teachers are like cops, EMTs, nurses, and others who see the population at large. If you work in corporate America, or some job where you’re just in contact with middle and upper-middle class people, you have no idea what has happened to our society. Taken as a whole, we’ve sunk to the level of pond scum, and it shows in the way our kids dress and comport themselves.
Not all, but half to two thirds of the girls in my school dress in a way I would never allow my daughter to dress. A few of the things I see are sexually suggestive messages on t-shirts. T-shirts that are too short. Combined with pants that you have to shave your pubic hair just to wear and…you get the idea.
How about piercings? Nose, cheek, lips, that’s bad enough, but tongue piercings take the cake. This whole idea behind tongue piercings is to provide the wearer with the ability to exercise a little extra stimulous during oral sex–which is no longer sex, anyway, but some sort of sport, like wrestling. (They’re trying it out in the Beijing Olympics.) 
Look, I’m a normal guy. (A normal married guy.) I like sex as much as the next person, but that belongs behind closed doors and needs to be between married adults.
Yeah, yeah, I know. You’re either laughing or calling 911 to have me committed for saying that you really should be married before you have sex.
I don’t want to be harsh, but that’ s your problem, not mine.
The marriage issue aside, would you really want your wife or daughter dressing like Brittany Spears?
Or, if you’re female reading this, let me clue you in on something. You want to get a guy’s attention, dress provocatively. But he’s only going to be interested in buying what you’re advertising, and if you’re dressed like that, you’re not saying that you are looking for a long-term, stable relationship with someone of character and morals. You are saying that you want a fling–and it’s a fling that you’ll get. Think more of yourself! You have to train the rest of the world how to treat you. You want to be treated like an object, dress like one. You want to be treated like a lady by a guy who values your beauty and all of your other wonderful attributes, dress like a lady. You wouldn’t go on a job interview dressed in a t-shirt and shorts, would you?
I’m afraid I got a little far afield, but this is all making the same point. Day in, day out, I stand in the halls of my high school and wonder why half the girls are even trying to get a high school diploma–they would have such a promising career as street walkers.
This is all part of a larger problem our society has. Parents have shifted their parental responsibilities to the school systems. We’re not only charged with teaching kids how to read and write, but how to act, too. Well, even though I currently work for a school system, I’m not much of a big government person. Nobody’s going to raise your son or daughter as well as you are. Don’t think it’s going to happen by itself. The negative influences available to kids these days are one hundred times as powerful as any of us had to deal with when we were kids. I could tell you more stories that would make your toenails curl up, but since this post is a little off topic, I’ll let it rest for the moment.
I’ll get back on track on the next post.
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March 6th, 2007 at 3:35 pm
LOL, cute post. I don’t know…you may be onto something, but that age, they all want to dress hip and wearing whats-the-latest-thing which sends dads over the edge. Maybe I’m old-fashioned or maybe I’m naive, but I think that’s really all the reason they wear that stuff for. Think back to when you were younger. Ooops…you were a guy…okay, I’m going to have to explain from a woman’s point of view. Do you remember hot pants? How about those short little dress-like things with the underpants that were supposed to show? How about halter tops? I wore all those and you couldn’t have gotten more non-sexual than I was. I wasn’t wearing it to get laid, so to speak. I wore it because it was the latest thing. Of course, nowadays, things are a little more different…sex is everywhere…but if your daughter was brought up by someone who has morals, she’ll make the right decision. I’d say you’re doing a good job, my man.
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March 26th, 2007 at 5:09 am
I worked with teens off a naval base for about 3 years. There was definitely a difference in how girls were treated depending on how they dressed. All the ‘conservative’ girls seemed to have a ‘balanced’ set of friends while the ‘liberal’ girls had all the uber-hormonal boys sniffing around. Even if a girl is wearing something because it’s the latest in fashion, that’s not what the boys are thinking. And if a girl is subjected to certain influences continuously, or for that matter any person, that person is more than likely to succumb. If adults fall flat, how can anyone expect a child to do better? I agree with you - parents need to take responsibility for the way their children dress even if they’re 16. My mother had a fantastic rule, ‘You live under my roof, you follow my rules. If you don’t like it, you’re welcome to leave.’ Of course, I’m a guy, so what do I know?
March 26th, 2007 at 5:12 am
Interesting post. But your sentiments are not new … every generation says this about the generation before, going back as far as people worried about this. Think about your childhood … if you were a teen-ager in the 60s, you know about the whole mini-skirt rage. Same thing in the 70s, 80s, 90s and now. You could even go back to the 50s and 40s and earlier … teen-aged girls have always dressed “provocatively” compared to the standards of their parents’ generation.
Does it lead to increased sexual activity or lower morale standards? That’s a tough debate, especially as it’s complicated by the chicken-and-egg problem. Is it the girls’ clothes that’s causing the problem, or the media, or values taught by parents? Probably a combination of all of the above.
The bottom line is that as parents, we can only worry about our own kids. We cannot change the standards of an entire society, especially one as controlled by media influences as ours is.
My kids go to public school and they are not allowed to wear provocative clothing. I talk to them about what they see on TV, movies, magazines, etc. I try to keep them grounded in real life, with good values. But that’s about all we can do.
March 26th, 2007 at 12:16 pm
I am a liberal, pierced, tattooed, sexuality liberated woman, and I couldn’t agree more with you. I am not a mother (IANAM?) but whenever I go to the mall or drive by a school I am appalled by the fashions girls are wearing.
Being proud of your sexuality is fine, and I don’t disapprove of sluts in general as long as A) that is what they WANT to be and B) they are older my cat. As you pointed out so well, selling your sex will only attract the buyers who want a good deal on it. A key component of sexuality is maturity, and lacking that, these kids are playing with a fire which can burn them worse than they can even imagine (and not just physically with pregnancy or disease, but psychologically).
My brother is a juvee defense lawyer and he pointed out to me the same phenomenon that you discuss: that many parents have abdicated their responsibilities and left the job of rearing their children to the school system, which is not designed nor intended to do so. I pity the teachers such as you who have to deal with the worst trifecta in history: parents, students, and the school system. I admire you, certainly, but I do pity you.
I feel worse for these girls, though, who think they are showing “girl power” by displaying their nascent cleavage. I wish they would wear something modest and focus more on their math.
Thanks for an excellent post.
March 26th, 2007 at 9:09 pm
Yes, I see the same thing at my boys’ high school. But I don’t think it’s a problem with the “public school system” as much as just the condition of any environment where you have a mixture of people who are not “forced” to comply with a certain standard. So the standard that many students will follow is the standard set by the media. Combine that with raging hormones, or a need for attention and acceptance, and you have what we see today. I agree with some previous commentors that every generation has experienced this. I’ve had to ask myself “is the fact that my boys wear their pants practically off their butts really that bad?” I went into a Macy’s the other day and saw mannequins modelling jeans in the exact same way - complete with exposed boxers.
Yes, it’s easy to prevent this from happening if you keep your children isolated at home. But that can also back-fire as there will still be a percentage that will rebel in the worse way.
March 27th, 2007 at 1:30 am
Xdroot! Thanks for an excellent comment. Don’t sell yourself short. Even though you’re a guy (I am, too!) you apparently know quite a lot. What we have to do is to not follow the “norm” and do what we know is right. I’m not sure if you’re a parent yet, but if you are, or if you become one, you just have to raise your kids in the way that you know is correct, not paying any attention to what the media, Hollywood, or anyone else for that matter thinks.
March 27th, 2007 at 1:40 am
KimBoo, I think you hit the proverbial nail on the head when you noted that the least of the ways promiscuous sexuality can hurt is pregnancy and disease. I’ve seen so many girls damaged psychologically by having children in their teens! Not to mention the awful consequences of these kids growing up not knowing who their father is. I know that half of Americans get divorces, but that still does not make it a good thing. Quite frankly, I’ve been teaching so long I can spot a kid who is raised in a household without their biological father within about five seconds of meeting them. As far as being proud of your sexuality, well if it weren’t for sex neither of us would be here. But we’re not just animals, and, although a lot of folks don’t understand this, one’s responsibility only begins with the sex act; it does not end with it. As far as your piercings and tatoos, I could care less. I’ve always tried to focus on the inner person. At least that’s the lesson my mother tried to teach me. Just be careful if you go through any metal detectors! God Bless!
P. S. Don’t pity me too much. Teaching has been one of the greatest things that has ever happened to me. Although, I’m sure that I was not meant to be a teacher forever, I know that I was destined to be a teacher for as long as it takes for me to learn certain lessons about myself and about others. I’ll make a note to post on the incredibly strange events that lead to my becoming a teacher. Stay tuned!
March 27th, 2007 at 1:52 am
Leo, thanks for the post. It looks like you’ve got things figured out. We live in a world that is far from perfect, and we have to help our own children understand that they are held to a higher standard than perhaps is the norm. The difference that I see between now and the 60s is this. In the 60s the stakes were not as high. Roe vs. Wade had only just happened. In other words, abortions were not as easy to get. Now, I’m not arguing for or against abortion. I have my opinions, which shall be kept to myself, and I have learned long ago that no one is going to change his or her mind on this subject. Having said that, I don’t think anyone would argue that Roe vs. Wade has not changed our moral landscape. Not only that, but technology has changed our moral possibilities as well. The morning after pill, easy access to condoms–the list goes on and on. As far as sex is concerned, it is not uncommon for me to hear girls talking casually about the merits of using two vs. one condoms during intercourse. Two, of course, offer more protection, whereas it feels better with just one. When I was in high school, 70s, I never heard talk like this, or if I did, it came from the one or two sluts or potheads that I knew. At least this was not everyday conversation between average teens. There are other factors to consider here as well. Take drugs, for instance. When I was a kid the worst that could happen is that you might stumble upon a good stash of Accapulco Gold. Now, that’s bad enough, but I had a friend who’s a teacher at my school actually catch a kid snorting meth in the back of her room! I’m not excusing marajuana, by any means, but it’s not to be compared with methamphetamine. In other words, Leo, today the stakes are much, much higher than they were even twenty years ago. Great comment! It really made me think, as you can tell by this long reply.
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April 11th, 2007 at 6:04 pm
Here’s another woman’s point of view to balance out Dorothy’s: I didn’t wear hot pants. I didn’t wear “those short little dress-like things with the underpants that were supposed to show.” I didn’t wear halter tops.
Just because those “fashions” were popular when I was in the age group that wore them didn’t mean *I* had to wear them myself. Wearing them would have sent a message I wasn’t interested in sending: “Focused on sex! Sexually available! Come and get it!”
Young women (and young men with their butts hanging out of their jeans) have to learn that people *are* judged by the way they dress. If you don’t want to be taken for a mindless slave to fashion, a whore, or a gangbanger, then stow the slutwear and pull up your pants.
April 12th, 2007 at 1:05 am
JM, Thanks so much! Your comment was right on target and very eloquent! I love the “mindless slave to fashion!” Take heart! There are still young ladies like you were. (Or perhaps still are!
) They’re fewer and farther between, unfortunately.
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April 23rd, 2007 at 1:21 pm
“You wouldn’t go on a job interview dressed in a t-shirt and shorts, would you?”
Actually, when I was an office manager interviewing 35-50 year old women for a receptionist position, MORE THAN ONE showed up wearing flip flops and/or blue jeans.
If their moms dress like they are garage sale hunting while seeking employment, no wonder their daughters forget to wear clothes at all!
April 23rd, 2007 at 3:41 pm
Milehimama, Usually, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. Thanks for the comment.
April 23rd, 2007 at 9:06 pm
Public Schools produce whores?…
Abtolutelee.com has a provactive article entitled How To Turn Your Daughter Into A Whore In Two Easy Steps Step 1. Enroll your daughter in public school.Step 2. Kick back and watch….
May 22nd, 2007 at 7:16 pm
Lee,
I couldn’t agree with you more and, like KimBoo, I’m quite tattoed and liberated as well. I have two nieces in high school and I am appalled by how some of their classmates dress. I graduated from high school in 1996 and it’s truly unbelievable to me how much as changed since then.
Although each generation says the one after it is going to far, I honestly do think that the current generation in high school really does have many more negative influences than there have been in the past. From the readily available drugs to unmonitored internet behavior and essentially absent parents who blame coaches and teachers when their kids make bad choices, this generation really has the cards stacked against it as far as stability and values go.
I think, politically, we’re quite far apart, but I really enjoy your blog, Lee. I don’t write about politics on my blog, but if I did I imagine we could have quite a lively debate. However, on this issue, I’m right there with you.
Sara
May 22nd, 2007 at 7:54 pm
Sara, Thanks for the great input. I think you’re right about unmonitored internet behavior being a huge factor in all of this. Absent parents, too. As far as our being far apart politically, although I rarely just state my political views, I think my general slant (conservative/libertarian) is obvious. Politics, hopefully, is an expression of one’s values, especially for a thoughtful person like yourself. Give yourself a few years! You’re probably in your late twenties (judging from the date you graduated high school). I bet in a few years our poltical views will be more similar than you might think. Glad you like the blog! BTW, I took a look at your blog. Good stuff! Very ambitious! Lee
July 17th, 2007 at 10:29 am
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July 17th, 2007 at 3:56 pm
Very bold and very correct statements. I am very strongly thinking about homeschooling my kids because of these very reasons. I want to be the one to imprint my own values on my kids. I don’t want them being taught by peers that certain behaviors are they way things are so just get used to it so you can be just like everyone else.
July 20th, 2007 at 7:07 am
Mom is Teaching, thanks for the post! I’m glad you liked the article. (I’m not sure “liked” is the proper word for this one.)
Awesome Mom, I’m right there with you. From day one, I’ve realized that my main job with my children has been to “imprint” my own values and the values of my family on them.
July 24th, 2007 at 11:34 pm
Great post. They thing that makes me nuts is when I see little girls dressed provocatively. The parents have to be the ones buying the clothes. What could they be thinking?
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